Submission : It ain’t for everybody…

Most women cringe at the word submission or submissive.. And that is fine.. But I don’t, it’s actually apart of who it is I want to be for my Ultimate Bae (Future Husband)..

Submitting to your husband is simply saying with your actions that you trust his decision is best for you and him as a unit.. Being able to submit is based on trust.. If you can NOT trust your man you will never submit to him.. What a lot of women don’t understand is that you don’t have to always have it together, you don’t need to know all the answers or figure it out on your own, in marriage especially.. That’s where your teammate comes into play.. You sometimes have to allow him to try things his way first and if it doesn’t work you make your play and see if your team wins.. Men serve the role as the leader and as his lady it’s ok to stand by him in his decision making.. What men have to understand is this, though a woman wants to be a submissive wife doesn’t mean your worthy of her.. A submissive woman brings far more peace and blessings to the table thn you can imagine and if you as man aren’t indeed a man she will pick up on that and move along..

Two years ago I found myself going through a transitional stage in life where I was trying to find myself.. And I found myself infatuated with Love.. I wanted to understand it better and I wanted to exude that nothing but love… With that I became really devoted to who it was I wanted to ultimately be in life.. That is a submissive wife and a good mother .. At that time I’d studied what submissive meant, I studied what love really was, I studied what a good woman was.. The bible played a huge part in my studies but so did people watching… I studied Proverbs 31 about the virtuous woman.. And Titus 2:1-15 on how we teach our children the right way.. 1 Peter 3:1-7 which tells women to submit to their husbands and also tells men to be worthy! .. I seen how unresponsive women are to men who aren’t good leaders and how great women are to men who are indeed worth every submissive bone in her body.. And after very careful self examination I figured out that’s what I wanted to be and I set forth effort to be that and not to accept a man who wasn’t worth my practice..Truthfully so you’re suppose to submit to your husband, however practicing is not a bad idea when you have a man worthy. I think that practice every here and there makes perfect for the real thing.. And it helps you grow as a person as well..

In finding myself I made myself aware of the principles of marriage and what it actually means to hit the status of wife.. And all things for me point to submission.. In being submissive there’s great strength, as women we are mouthy and we want to get our point across for the most part. So in making a decision to be submissive it means to break down all those barriers such as being unnecessarily mouthy to be better listeners and also better understanders of what it is our man try’s to tell us he needs from us.. It’s a simple life lesson listen better understand better..

Every woman won’t want to be submissive just as every man won’t be worthy of your practice.. But those who are I applaud your efforts and your strength…

ThatsMyJAM90 declaration…

I’m sitting here journaling. Journaling is a HUGE part of my writing process. It allows me to put all my thoughts on paper. It’s away to clear my mind and ease the overthinking that we women do…

As I wrote in my journal I began to tell myself little things. Like little short sentences… “I may need more confidence”… I wrote some more and the. I thought ” I really have to stop talking and start doing”…

At that point my mind went to when I’d see people posting all these declarations on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.. And I said ” I’m going to write my own”… Nothing to overly long where the words explain the words and the punctuation that came before them but something short and simple to say to myself everyday. Why not share my declaration with my network?

I will be a more confident yet humble individual. I will be more of a doer and less of a sayer. I am becoming much more positive. I will continue to be supportive to those who surround me.

See short and very simple. Very much so to the point!

Mark 11:22-26 ESV
[22] And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God. [23] Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. [24] Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. [25-26] And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”