Sharing a bit much…

Last week I posed the question to my social media:

Why is it that men will make they girl sound like a tough pill to swallow on social media? But when they do something sweet it’s hardly ever mentioned?

For example a common man tweet will be like “My girl stay tryna argue”… Or “Maaannn this brat shit is for the birds”… But never will you see anything about the big Sunday dinner, or the dope as birthday surprise… I follow a lot of men on social media and I don’t really see much about their women but the women I see (even myself from time to time) “Loving bae” or “He’s perfect”…. The flip side to that is women post about the good and bad and look mad unstable too

Anyways I posed that question on social media and I got these responses:

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While everyone is entitled to their own opinions I wasn’t moved by those responses. So I asked a few friends

One of them said:

Because y’all suppose to do sweet shit

In which yea no whatever lol

But the other took a different approach, one in which I could dig and respect.

It depends on the kind of man you’re dealing with. One type of man will do things like that to get the attention of the lurking women who are secretly waiting … But a real man does it because women being a brat or wanting their way and women naggin or wanting to talk about something at an inconvenient time is a universal trait yall share and its a struggle we all have with yall at one time or another. That leads the men who are watching our lady to believe that she’s no different then the ones they can readily have. And that allows us to keep our treasure. We know our woman is dope but they don’t need to know what she does to be so dope or worth keeping.

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This response moved me, the conversation as a whole moved me because it embodies the truth. If you want to keep your treasure you definitely wouldn’t tell other people where it is..

Feel free to comment or share your opinion on this topic!

Souled Out … Just a bit…

Less thn a week ago singer Jhene Aiko released her album Souled Out.. With any hesitation I downloaded it on my iTunes and immediately began to listen to it..

The overall album is a very beautiful work of art. You can tell that’s she’s in a place of peace and reminiscing with this particular album when you hear the melodies and beats to each track. All of them in which have a real chill and serene sound to it… From start to finish I approve this album

I’m not going to go all in and review all of the songs just a few personal favorites.. Starting with:

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Remember

This song is clearly about a break up, but the after math… Reminding the ex of who they were in the relationship. Making sure that they know to tell everybody the whole truth, not just that I might’ve been crazy.. Tell em about the things you lied about… Making sure they know, I don’t hate you it’s just messed up that things didn’t really work out..

With lyrics such as:

Do you remember who you were to me?.. Cuz I do

Tell all the homies that you’re the one to blame, and when you speak my name. I’d like you to explain the lies you told me

Now you coming back?.. Second chance? Fuck all that… You gave her what we had yet there’s no love lost here

Blue Dream

This song has to be related to a love interest who made you see life in very different way. You know that person who taught you something? The one that gave you experiences that you’ll never forget?.. That one that was sooo ideal.. The to good to be true love.. The one you dream about

With lyrics such as:

My mind has opened so wide since you came inside

We were coasting on the coast when you open my eyes make me notice where ocean was holding the sky

It seems that you are the truth itself cuz nothing else can take me so far

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Promise

This is a sing for mothers with children who work hard to provide for them and want to just make them proud.. Who wouldn’t love this song? And her daughter sings apart of the song

With lyrics such as:

I been coming home late night, I been sleeping pass day light

Promise you’ll be alright if anything should happen

Mommy really needs you, and I will never leave you

I am go make you so proud and you don’t ever have to worry about me

Seeing as I can over do it a tad when it comes to the music I really love I purchased the deluxe version.. There are many more great songs to choose from on this album. And the songs I decided to give a small description to have way more to offer… I think Jhene Aiko really has something here with this album, it depends on what place you are in. But there’s at least one song to strike a nerve for every woman and maybe even men as well…

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Souled Out

You should wanna taste this… #FlavorMeDope

All of my friends are blessed with amazing talents and gifts. But one of them is blessed and highly flavored!

My friend Symphani McNeal has been my friends for about 7years now and we’ve always been expressive with one another about our dreams and future plans. While mine probably had a lot to do with love and relationships.. Hers had more to do with her love for music and cooking.. Symphani and I always related well when it came to music, she’d put me on some dope music and I in return would do the same for her.. But cooking has been hers all by herself. I can cook but Symphani is all into it presentation of meals and all..

About a year or so ago we sat at Barnes and Nobles and discussed our dreams and how we want our futures to play out in great detail.. And at this present moment I’m proud to say that she has made a grand step in the correct direction…

Her amazing cupcakes are now in a restaurant right here in Flint, Mi…
You can try her

#FlavorMeDope

Cupcakes at Capitol Coney Island 4021 Van Slyke Rd, Flint,Mi 48507
The cost of them is $1.50
They are opened 24hrs!

To give you some visuals of her work:
Red Velvet:
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Raspberry with lemon cream cheese frosting:

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Reese’s Brownie(my fav) and Pineapple upside down:

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Special order white with strawberry frosting:

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To place special orders from Symphani herself send emails to

Colormedopeasap@gmail.com

It’s my anniversary!….

In September 2013 I transferred all of my post to my own domain from my blogspot account.

On September 12th 2013 I wrote my first new post on ThatsMyJAM90.com … Titled

Don’t knock the hustle

That day I had no idea that I would be at the place that I am now…

The purpose of this site was decided to be for dreamers and goal accomplishers.. I have a real love and appreciation for those who work hard for their dream and those who are very passionate for what they do. It’s something about the sparkle ✨ in someone’s eyes when they talk about what they love. So I decided to use my site to give them some exposure as well as spread some positivity around… No shade to other blog sites because I read some good gossip from time to time myself I just don’t want to spread it.

Since I’ve started I’ve been blessed to meet many people and get to know them and their dream. Most in which I’ve kept as friends and others I still do business with … Writing is something that allows me an outlet my site gives me a place to say what I want how I want when I want… And to me that important… The interviews I conduct with people are the most fulfilling thing about the site. As I said before getting to know people’s dream and goals is something you can put a price on.

Right now I thank God for the 8,000 plus views I have gotten in this year. To some that isn’t a lot but to a woman such as myself it means the world 🌍…

This is only the beginning… Even greater things to come

To purchase a ThatsMyJAM90 baseball Tshirt for $20 email ThatsMyJAM90@gmail.com
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For interviews email ThatsMyJAM90@gmail.com place Interview Inquiry in the subject line and for advertisement place Advertisement inquiry in the subject line

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A dream deffered

Last night while scrolling through my Instagram I stumbled across the Instagram of Kyona McGhee … A lot you don’t know who she is. And well I am about to tell you.. She is the owner of an amazing Christian ministry that produces clothing and more for young women across this world

Daughter of the King


www.daughterofthekingroyaltee.com

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I’ve been a very loyal supporter of this woman for years now. She didn’t start out with her ministry she started out with a dream of being a lawyer. She once had a website KimoraCochran.com where she’d report about legal matters of the world or celebrities. And even then I was tuned in…

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Just recently something very amazing happened for Kyona. A true blessing from God. And she took it to YouTube to share with us all. I had the pleasure of viewing this last night and you’ll have the pleasure of viewing it now:

http://youtu.be/cjnEs995arc

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One sided messages… Fornication

Here is my disclaimer:

I am in no way form or fashion blaming the churches for the world as a whole… I am asking that they take some of the blame for the portion of the world that they touch in this matter of Fornicating

For those of you who aren’t sure what Fornication means here is the definition : sexual intercourse between people not married to each other.

I recently sat in a Sunday School classroom where the topic was based around fornication. The subject came from 1 Corinthians 6:9-18. I watched each young person read a verse and then it was time for the teacher to take over… We danced around the subject, and finally it’s was touched on very briefly and very surface..

However this isn’t a brief or surface subject matter. Sex shouldn’t be a taboo thing when it comes to how you’re taught about it in church.. Understand the church is a building of people who have a common belief, that shouldn’t stop the conversation of sex from happening on both sides of the fence.

For the Virgins who haven’t participated in sexual intercourse you feed them by encouraging them to wait, giving them the tools they need to stay strong and such during the abstinent journey..

For the ones who are fornicating they deserve a totally different message, one that doesn’t condemn them straight to hell. But one that teaches them two things… How to stop and practice celibacy and one that teaches them how to stop the risk of premarital pregnancy and Sexually transmitted diseases.. This message is barely taught and very much so ignored. This could because no one has practiced celibacy from the pulpit. No Shade we are all human. We’ve all done and still do things that aren’t so great. If that is the case seek out some one in the congregation or from somewhere else that has practiced celibacy to teach that message. Teach them about contraceptives ( Condoms ,birth control) so that once they do make a decision on their own they make one that’s educated… (If you say that it’s the schools or parents job you are failing the next generation already)

The truth of the matter is you cannot control the world or people in it, but you can definitely educate them on right and wrong and how to protect themselves.. Sex is one of those topics that needs to have that type of teaching. It can’t be one sided or biased. That one sided conversation has only gotten a decline of young people in church and an increase on premarital pregnancy and STD rates… Remember when having conversations with them think about how you were once a teenager and how you would have liked to been approached about said subject. It’s all in the approach…

My purpose in this post isn’t to bash churches but to give them a small push in speaking on all sides of the spectrum when they speak about sex…

Tupac Shakur

When I was young I read a lot, wrote poetry… I would’ve been a totally different person had I not been expose to these things… I’m not saying I’m going to change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world..- Tupac Shakur

These are sound bites that one of my favorite rappers Wale used on 11-1-11 Theory. Taken from different interviews from a great rapper Tupac Shakur.. Growing up we I lived in a house divided, my older brother was for Michigan and I was For Michigan State. And when it came to music he made his choice Biggie and I made mine Tupac Shakur.

Here’s my disclaimer though Biggie was a great artist as well however I liked Tupac. I was extremely young I mean like 6 years old when he died. I followed his work though, from the music to the movies. To this day I can’t watch Juice without Bishop giving me chills… This part specifically is one of my favorite: http://youtu.be/Cj2hBPsoNpg

Poetic Justice weaseled it’s way into being one of my all time favorite movies to watch. Tupac a part as Lucky was phenomenal.
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Once I graduated from Flint Southwestern Academy back in 2008 I paid small homage to Tupac legacy. With his hit I get Around being on of my favorite songs, when my name was called and it was my turn to grace the stage with my presence for my diploma I did the dance he did in the video ( lmbo)
Music video here: http://youtu.be/YqJAnQTwmJs

This man was a genius. He educated himself well on all issues and things that arise in our day to day lives that we ignore. His legacy will forever live on even though he’s went on. Every since I saw the Breakfast Club interview from June 24th 2014 with Angela Martinez and she spoken unreleased interview she has with him I’ve been listen to his interviews and music heavily. I even stumbled across this on Keke Palmers Instagram how Tupac felt about being a role model :http://instagram.com/p/pH94ypErg5/

Here are a few interviews I’ve listened to:
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Part one: http://youtu.be/EsItj_NzbuI

Part two:http://youtu.be/ztqQyVonrUM

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