Advice from Jordyn Anese 💜

I was asked sometime ago from a woman I use to work with

Am I shallow or wrong for wanting a man that looks good?

My response to this for all women/men who happen to have the same questions is:

No. You’re never wrong for wanting the person you devote your time in to be attractive. However when I say that I mean attractive to you not to everybody else. If you are looking for everybody to approve the look of you guy/girl you’ll lose every time. I think you should like to look at the person in which you’re with. And never let someone who’s interested in you make you feel like you’re single because you don’t share their interest. Sometimes that’s the case and others not so much. Do what works for you when it comes to dating and deciding who you spend your time with or not

Love Always
Jordyn Anese 💜

Interviews available…

I use this website to uplift and support others… One way I’ve done that is by supporting their dream and giving them an avenue to be heard. Interviews….. Written, recorded and video taped for others to read, listen to and watch… Falling more and more in love with the great people from our city and the fact that we have way more thn crime and high death rate to offer. We have people here with talent. People who want to inspire. People who are living their dream even here.

When we began recording the interviews I pulled in a good friend of mine Symphani ( to conduct the interviews. She simply amazing and her burning passion for Hip Hop as well as people with dreams and ambition is the cherry on top!

Her and I have been working on a great way to keep inspiring and keep placing the great people of our city!

If you or anyone you know is doing any of those thing send them my way. I can be contacted at, simply place Interview Request in the subject line…

Below are links to a few interviews done here at



Cash Cola


Jordyn Anese💜

Ciara from Outreach 20:35


Westside Society

Big Baby

Girls with Gifts presents: “Reach Back, Pull Forward” Summer program

I love love love social media! Somebody should hire me to do their social media work! One of my favorite places to go is Instagram! I love to see what people post personally and business wise. I get a personal kick out of those Selfies with the caption that has NO connection with the actual picture lol..

Getting back to the point of this post, one day I was doing my normal scroll through my Instagram Timeline and I ran across Girls with Gifts (GWG) Advisory Board Member Teresa “T-Lee” Montgomery post about “Reach Back, Pull Forward” Summer program coming to Flint,Mi. I was very excited because our young ladies with dreams and aspirations need this chance to be encouraged and shown the right way to do these things!… I immediately reached out and received a response from their Director of Programs and Special Projects Ashley Adams-Green with the following information:

Several members from GWG’s,leadership team hail from Flint, including our founder and President (Antoinetta Hairston), our Director of Programs and Special Projects (Ashley Adams-Green) and Advisory Board Member (Teresa T-Lee Montgomery). GWG’s mission is to provide mentorship, resources, skills and exposure to girls, ages 13-18, with interest in the arts, entertainment, and education. Following the mantra, “reach back, pull forward,” GWG is an organization focused on changing the world through talented young girls, one gift at a time.

As you already know, GWG has created the “Reach Back, Pull Forward” Summer Program. The program consists of a series of workshops, with a structured curriculum to encompass various fields of interest. These fields include, but are not limited to: Singing, dancing, acting, writing, TV/film/radio production, painting and sculpting, fashion design, modeling and musicianship. Sessions will include hands-on activities, workshops, guest speakers and industry specific field trips. The program will culminate with a talent show to showcase the gifted RBPF program participants.

Our RBPF program has expanded nationally and is now being hosted in Flint, MI and Los Angeles, CA)! The Flint program will be a one-week camp from July 7-July 13th. Applications are available until April 30. To apply, visit:

Don’t wait! Sign your daughter up or a special young dreamer in your life now!


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“Have you been reading your bible?” – Kevin Harts mom

I’m a sucka for a good interview that inspires or moves me in some way…

I am a fan of Kevin Hart, he’s cute and chocolate, nice looking tiny man! But his interview with Oprah allowed him to get personal,on a serious note. I’ve watched the interview twice and both times I have found something that moved me. This time it was his story about his mom and his first year of rent..

Check it out here:

This story spoke volumes to me. I think that all someone needs is one person in their corner to believe in them and invest in them. And that one person being none other than one of the people who gave them life is phenomenal! It is support at the highest level…

Be inspired.
Do great.
Remain epic.

And if you love me, let it be beautiful…. (Video Blog)

1 John 4:18 ESV
[18] There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.

1 John 4:12 ESV
[12] No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.

1 Corinthians 16:14 ESV
[14] Let all that you do be done in love.

Galatians 5:22-23 ESV
[22] But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [23] gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

1 Timothy 1:5 ESV
[5] The aim of our charge is love that issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.

1 Corinthians 13:1-13 MSG
[1] If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. [2] If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. [3-7] If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. [8-10] Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled. [11] When I was an infant at my mother’s breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good. [12] We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us! [13] But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.

You can say whatever you want to say…

The biggest problem with most people is, they don’t tell their truth. And it’s not always because they are a liar. Sometimes it’s because their truth will hurt and/ or possibly damage someone else…

They never ask the questions they want answers to….
They never tell someone how they really feel…
They never say no when they’ve said yes a million times…

The list an go on and on, but these things whether we believe it or not can and will weigh heavy on us. (if it’s indeed that DEEP) sometimes people fear being judged, other times they just don’t want to hurt someone else’s feelings… And that’s ok, but you can’t kill yourself for everyone else. I have news for you that’s been done already by a man whose level you’ll never match …….Jesus

But ……(yes there is a but) you want to know something?

You can say whatever you want to say…

The thing is being crafty enough to say it in a manner that doesn’t purposefully hurt someone else. Or doesn’t make you look below your caliber of character… Some people may feel like this is Sugarcoating the facts but it’s not at all. It’s called not burning bridges unnecessarily… Sheila Davis-Gaines (My mom) always told me

You can catch more bees with honey, thn you can with vinegar

and for sometime I thought she wanted me to walk around kissing people’s asses. Until one day I was faced with having to tell someone something that was not going to make their ears excited to hear my voice and I figured that thing out….

You can say what you want to say, and in most situations you can do it tastefully….


Valentines Day as I remember….

I can remember the first romantic thing someone did for me… It was on valentines day…

I was in High school and My valentine was away at college… Maybe forty five mins away from me but still away from me. I wondered how that day would end up. Or if that day would even turn out to be anything special. I found myself accepting the fact that valentines day due to our circumstances would be

Just another day

Not to mention he didn’t think of it as a big deal anyway.

I got to school that morning and as the day went on I saw other girls with bears as big as me. Balloons and flowers. Cards and candy… Because I had truly accepted the fact that my valentine wasn’t around I was happy for those girls I thought

Every woman deserves to be surprised on Valentines day

A little later my cousin Ashley came and got me out of class with a security guard and I’m like

Awww shit they done caught me skipping class!

When we got to the front of the school I looked up and my valentine had sent me pink flowers, a pink bear, a card, and some candy… I remember the card saying “Happy Valentines Day booder, I’m sorry I couldn’t be there but I wanted to do something for you”…. He had his best friend bring everything to my school… I think I might’ve cried but I was thee happiest girl in the world! He’d pulled off this surprise without even hinting anything to me ever!

That was an amazing moment .. It wasn’t because of the gifts, it was all about the thought behind it and gesture. I’d only seen things like that happen on TV, it hadn’t happened to me before and I honestly never expected it to…. But in that moment for that moment he was thee MAN. I don’t think he understood how much that meant to me back then.. I felt loved, thought of, appreciated, wanted…

Every good woman deserves moments like that!

Happy Valentines Day


ThatsMyJAM90 declaration…

I’m sitting here journaling. Journaling is a HUGE part of my writing process. It allows me to put all my thoughts on paper. It’s away to clear my mind and ease the overthinking that we women do…

As I wrote in my journal I began to tell myself little things. Like little short sentences… “I may need more confidence”… I wrote some more and the. I thought ” I really have to stop talking and start doing”…

At that point my mind went to when I’d see people posting all these declarations on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.. And I said ” I’m going to write my own”… Nothing to overly long where the words explain the words and the punctuation that came before them but something short and simple to say to myself everyday. Why not share my declaration with my network?

I will be a more confident yet humble individual. I will be more of a doer and less of a sayer. I am becoming much more positive. I will continue to be supportive to those who surround me.

See short and very simple. Very much so to the point!

Mark 11:22-26 ESV
[22] And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God. [23] Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. [24] Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. [25-26] And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”

Yonce… (UPDATED)

A few weeks ago I was hit with a surprise from my favorite female r&b artist…


She dropped her self named album on a Thursday night and when I got the text message I was full speed ahead to iTunes to download it and started listening to it NON-STOP… You hear me?! . I learned the songs in two days like all of them… Fell in love with the videos in maybe three or four days it got so real for me..

This album was dope. It shows Beyonce’s growth. Reflecting on her very first solo album all the way up to this one. You can see the change from a dating girl to a married woman. Each song gives you a different feel. This album takes you through a few different emotions. I do however advise parental advisory with this one. It’s a pretty grown project..

Here’s the video series YouTube:

Check out some of my favorite quotes from the songs below!

Pretty Hurts

Pretty hurts, shine the light on whatever’s worse. Trying to fix something but you can’t fix what you can’t see it’s the soul that needs the surgery

Plastic smiles,in denial can only take you so far


All the people on the planet working nine to five just to stay alive

I’m climbing up the walls cause all the shit I hear is boring

I’m on to you, you must be on to me

Drunkin Love

I’m sanging on the mic to my boy toy then I fill the tub up half way and ride it with my surfboard

I do say it’s the shit if I do say so myself

We woke up in the kitchen saying how the hell did this shit happen oh baby


I love your face, you love the taste. That sugar babe it melts away

Pink is the flavor, solve the riddle

I can’t wait til I get home so you can turn that cherry out

No Angel

Baby put ya arms around me tell me ima problem.

underneath this pretty face it’s something complicated

I come with a side of trouble but I know that’s why you’re staying cause you’re no angel either baby


I bought this all for you just walk my way

I sneezed on the beat and the beat got sicker

Took 45 minutes to get all dressed up we ain’t even go make it to this club

Take all of me, I just wanna be the girl you like. The kind of girl you like is right here with me


I cooked this meal for you naked, so where da hell you at?

Wish that you were me, so you could feel this feeling

Sometime I wanna walk in ya shoes do the type of things that I never ever do

I look damn good I ain’t lost it

And I love making you jealous but don’t judge me


Let me take this off while you watch me, that’s mass appeal

Rock right up to the side of my mountain climb until you reach my peak baby, peak baby, peak

I do it like it’s my profession I gotta make a confession

We’re so much more than pointless fixtures, Instagram pictures


On my mind, up past my bedtime. No rest in the kingdom.

Stop making a big deal outta the little things cause I got big deals and I got little things. Got everything I’m asking for but you


Your love is bright as ever, even in the shadows

Nobody sees what we see. They’re just hopelessly gazing

In the darkest night I search through the crowd. Your face is all that I see I give you everything

I love him like XO


Respect that, bow down bitches

I took some time to live my life, but don’t think I’m just his little wife

I woke up like this, I woke up like this we flawless

Mama taught me good home training, my daddy taught me how to love my haters

My man make me feel so got damn fine!


And when I’m standing In this mirror after all these years what I’m viewings a little different from what ya eyes show ya. I guess I didn’t see myself before ya

And I thought I could live without ya.. Hey hey.. Nothing I know can break us down


But heaven couldn’t wait for you

I fought for you the hardest. It made em the strongest

I just can’t stand to see you leaving

You showed me love was all you needed


Sometimes these walls seem to cave in on me but when I look in ya eyes I feel alive

Come on baby won’t you hold on to me

Each day I feel so blessed to be looking at you..

My heart beats so damn quick when you say my name

Ladies and Gentlmen Beyonce

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Let’s have this moment together…

In life we have choices… Plenty of choices..

Do or Don’t

Red or Blue

Paper or Plastic

And the choices we make pave the lane that is perfectly created for us… Those choices write the black words on the white pages of our life story…

At this point in life do you feel like you’ve made the right the choices?

This is the question I just asked myself, like no for real I got in the house took off my coat and that’s the question the formed in my head.. And as I began to think about it I cried. Mascara running down my cheeks, face turning red, and eyes mad glossy cry… I feel like I just been settling and being comfortable… There’s so many things I want to do that I talk myself out of and label it

Common Sense

Little did I realized I’d boxed myself in to the opinions of people who won’t ever sign any of my checks… Shame on me… So in a matter of minutes I made a choice… A choice to go for what it is I really want… A choice to NEVER SETTLE I felt so much weight lift off of me…

So now it’s your turn… You try… Do the things you desire, the things you dream of.. Don’t box yourself in and don’t let nobody else box you in…