ThatsMyJAM90/FlavorMeDope Sweetest Day contest winners…

Yesterday we took our talents downtown Flint to meet up with half of the winning couple…Bae had to work, we understand..

Symphani, Stanay, and I met up with Tamia and her son Mase to give her the winning prize! Six pack of Cookies and Cream cupcakes made with all kinds of love! She was definitely excited for the sweet treats for her and Thomas to share (Maybe) today…

The other judges and myself decided to pick Tamia mainly because she has to deal with Thomas and she loves to do so! Tamia submission wasn’t your classic “I saw him at the bar and I knew right then and there he was bae” entry… Her submission touched briefly on her toxic previous relationship and said how Thomas decided that he gave no fucksabout the guards she’d put up he kept on tryin her until….. well he got her!…

We got the chance to meet their famous son “Mase Dawg” a.k.a Blue Ivy Little Brother … He was seemingly turned down which is unusual, we usually see him in rare form on social media! Mase has just as much personality as his mother and father!

Happy Sweetest Day to our winning couple! Tamia and Thomas!

Check out a snippet of her submission:

I never would have thought I could love again after being in a toxic relationship. The saying is Never say never right? I finally broke free from that relationship and that’s when my guards were at attention 24/7 typical scorned female right, anywho Thomas said fuck them guards and continuously flirted with me via fb. I eventually gave in and let my guards down.

Look at the personality shine through in the photo she sent in, gotta love it!

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Well of Hope: Blessed to be a Blessing ….(Contest opportunity!)

This year marks the 6th annual Blessed to be a blessing Thanksgiving dinner. Which is simply amazing! Six year ago a young woman Chia Morgan had a vision to do something great to give back to our community after the economy fell when General Motors was uprooted from Flint, Mi. Two days before Thanksgiving day residents of Flint are able to dine in a family filled environment  while enjoying live music from one of Flints very own DJ’s as well hear words from an inspirational speaker.

Every year the turn out for this event brings tears to Chia’s eyes. This year she is expecting tremendous growth and more tears of joy ! Due to the previous head chef relocating, Well of Hope would like to introduce and  welcome Chef Dion Pollard on board to help serve the community at this years Blessed to be a Blessing event..

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Get into the Thanksgiving spirit with us! Enter the Blessed to Be a Blessing contest!  Find them on Facebook click like and tell us  your favorite Thanksgiving memory or why giving back is important to you. The winner get a FREE manicure! Hurry, you never know when this contest ends ;)

Facebook Like Page link: https://m.facebook.com/profile.php?id=131549890258924&ref=bookmark

Also take a moment to check out the website: http://www.wellofhopeflint.org/

To volunteer, donate, or just for more information please don’t hesitate to contact Chia Morgan at 810.789.3407 or by email ChiaMorgan@gmail.com (Well of Hope is a non-profit organization and all donations are tax deductible)

Kim Harrison

Often I am asked to do things for people in the name of their dream. And sometimes I oblige, most time I oblige. But just recently I sat down and spoke with a woman in which I’ve known for quite sometime. Mrs. Kim Harrison, she asked for my help just as anyone else with a dream or a goal. However her dream and goal is a tad different …

Mrs. Kim Harrison is a 44 year old woman born and raised in Flint, Mi… She is married to Steve Harrison and together they have to children, Stephan and Shaquita…. Stephan (the oldest son) is serving our country as an active member of the U.S. Navy, while Shaquita (The younger daughter) is a student at U of M Flint. Kim had to Retire early from General Motors due to her Illness, she is currently battling Polycystic Kidney and Liver disease.

Due to the complications related to her condition her husband has had to cut back on hours at work resulting in lost wages. As a result of her treatment she has had both of her kidneys removed and must have dialysis daily in order to survive. Her diagnosis requires that she have a double transplant (Kidney&Liver) which makes her condition very serious and means her donor must have passed away.

There’s a lot of travel involved in her situation due to the way the donor recipient system works. Kim May in fact have to travel to one of the several states where she is registered to receive a transplant at a moments notice. As a result she must have the necessary funds available to cover the travel expenses she incurs. These expense include but aren’t limited to : Lodging, Meals, airline tickets etc…

Any financial donation you can make, no matter how small. Is greatly appreciated by Kim and her family.

Please register as an Organ Donor with the Secretary of State and encourage your friends and family to do so also, there’s a GREAT need for Organs in the state of Michigan as well as across the country. Those who receive (the gift of life) these organs greatly appreciate your kind acts!

In the bible the book of John 15:13 NIV says….
[13] Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
The same can be said of those who donate organs….

Please send any monetary donations to:

Mrs. Kim Harrison
P.O. Box 320935
Flint, Mi 48532

Also stay tuned for more ways to contribute to this worthy cause.
If you or anyone you know is having an event where donations can be collected please contact myself at ThatsMyJAM90@gmail.com or call me at 810.643.1795 …

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Accept, Forgive, Grow…..

For days I’d been battling with what to write next. What should I post. Tossed around a few topics.. Today I thought about when I did the interview with spotlight radio Sunny asked me what my site was about. I highlighted the music artist and supporting them more thn anything else and a long time supporter and great friend of mine told me she was disappointed because I didn’t mention the experiences I’d dealt with that I wrote about. I left out the personal stories that helped so many people including her.. And that struck a cord in me made me kind of question if I needed to go back to that…

A while ago someone who shouldn’t see me in a sexual light came to me in a a suggestive manner.. I was much younger thn I am now and this man was older much older so I was intimidated to say the least. Nothing physical transpired but the words and passion behind what he expressed scared me. I remember thinking:

This is not happening

Unfortunately it was happening. .. The very first person I told laughed, like no lie he really laughed at me so after that I felt like no one would believe me. However a friend helped me out gave me a shoulder to cry on.

I remember being told not to tell people about it because people would think I provoked this man but what I wore or how I acted.. So even though I didn’t do anything suggestive around him due to respect.. I never said anything to more than who knew in the moment.

This particular situation was hard to forgive. The thought of “this isn’t suppose to be happening” caused me to rationalize why it happened, when the why is not what mattered. Then I decided that there was a lot of time that had passed and I need to be over it so I forced it. I pretended to be cool and to be over it but I wasn’t.. Finally behind closed doors I literally broke down, seeing as I spend a lot of time alone no one knew about it.. After that I accepted that it happened to me and silenced the the extra thinking. I began to pray about it and to process through every emotion without rationalizing them or asking God why it had to happen to me.. And today I’m at a point where I can speak on it without feeling in denial and knowing that who I am or who I was at the time had nothing to do with why this man felt like his actions were ok..

Forgiveness is truthfully never about the other person.. When you forgive somebody it is for you. If I didn’t know that before I know that now.. No shade to the person you have to forgive but that person moves on with their life while you decide to not accept and forgive.. The process is not easy but it’s worth it and it’s essential for growth and going to the next level….

Forgiveness is something that’s not a very easy process. I find that it hadn’t been easy for me because I tend to avoid that acceptance needs to come first.. Instead of accepting that this event happened and how I actually feel about it, I have a habit of rationalizing the why of a situation and trying to embody how I think I should feel… That’s never good.. You have to accept that a situation occurred first, then there’s the acceptance of that raw feeling you got when it happened after all of that comes true ability to forgive and heal. I shared this experience with hopes that it would help someone else allow themselves a chance to forgive, live freely and grow…

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Sharing a bit much…

Last week I posed the question to my social media:

Why is it that men will make they girl sound like a tough pill to swallow on social media? But when they do something sweet it’s hardly ever mentioned?

For example a common man tweet will be like “My girl stay tryna argue”… Or “Maaannn this brat shit is for the birds”… But never will you see anything about the big Sunday dinner, or the dope as birthday surprise… I follow a lot of men on social media and I don’t really see much about their women but the women I see (even myself from time to time) “Loving bae” or “He’s perfect”…. The flip side to that is women post about the good and bad and look mad unstable too

Anyways I posed that question on social media and I got these responses:

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While everyone is entitled to their own opinions I wasn’t moved by those responses. So I asked a few friends

One of them said:

Because y’all suppose to do sweet shit

In which yea no whatever lol

But the other took a different approach, one in which I could dig and respect.

It depends on the kind of man you’re dealing with. One type of man will do things like that to get the attention of the lurking women who are secretly waiting … But a real man does it because women being a brat or wanting their way and women naggin or wanting to talk about something at an inconvenient time is a universal trait yall share and its a struggle we all have with yall at one time or another. That leads the men who are watching our lady to believe that she’s no different then the ones they can readily have. And that allows us to keep our treasure. We know our woman is dope but they don’t need to know what she does to be so dope or worth keeping.

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This response moved me, the conversation as a whole moved me because it embodies the truth. If you want to keep your treasure you definitely wouldn’t tell other people where it is..

Feel free to comment or share your opinion on this topic!

Black~ish

This week was the week of great TV…

A new show Black~ish premiered Wednesday night on ABC.. Naturally I missed it doing my hair. However I got the chance to watch it Friday evening once I got relaxed after work.

I must say it’s great to see Joan (Tracy Ellis Ross) back on TV. But the show as a whole was good…

I think it will give other races a chance to see how it is to be a successful African American who came from a rough background. I even think that it is race friendly, it will allow other races to tune in and see how we feel when certain situations occur. It won’t speak for everyone but it will set the tone differently then not so reality TV has over the years.. No shade to reality TV I gets my fix sometimes too.. Shows like this gives us a chance to see a successful African American family and it gives hope which is always good.. I look forward to this season of Black~ish

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Souled Out … Just a bit…

Less thn a week ago singer Jhene Aiko released her album Souled Out.. With any hesitation I downloaded it on my iTunes and immediately began to listen to it..

The overall album is a very beautiful work of art. You can tell that’s she’s in a place of peace and reminiscing with this particular album when you hear the melodies and beats to each track. All of them in which have a real chill and serene sound to it… From start to finish I approve this album

I’m not going to go all in and review all of the songs just a few personal favorites.. Starting with:

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Remember

This song is clearly about a break up, but the after math… Reminding the ex of who they were in the relationship. Making sure that they know to tell everybody the whole truth, not just that I might’ve been crazy.. Tell em about the things you lied about… Making sure they know, I don’t hate you it’s just messed up that things didn’t really work out..

With lyrics such as:

Do you remember who you were to me?.. Cuz I do

Tell all the homies that you’re the one to blame, and when you speak my name. I’d like you to explain the lies you told me

Now you coming back?.. Second chance? Fuck all that… You gave her what we had yet there’s no love lost here

Blue Dream

This song has to be related to a love interest who made you see life in very different way. You know that person who taught you something? The one that gave you experiences that you’ll never forget?.. That one that was sooo ideal.. The to good to be true love.. The one you dream about

With lyrics such as:

My mind has opened so wide since you came inside

We were coasting on the coast when you open my eyes make me notice where ocean was holding the sky

It seems that you are the truth itself cuz nothing else can take me so far

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Promise

This is a sing for mothers with children who work hard to provide for them and want to just make them proud.. Who wouldn’t love this song? And her daughter sings apart of the song

With lyrics such as:

I been coming home late night, I been sleeping pass day light

Promise you’ll be alright if anything should happen

Mommy really needs you, and I will never leave you

I am go make you so proud and you don’t ever have to worry about me

Seeing as I can over do it a tad when it comes to the music I really love I purchased the deluxe version.. There are many more great songs to choose from on this album. And the songs I decided to give a small description to have way more to offer… I think Jhene Aiko really has something here with this album, it depends on what place you are in. But there’s at least one song to strike a nerve for every woman and maybe even men as well…

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Souled Out